How invalidating another person affected communication
(Myths and Truths) Asperger Syndrome is demonstrated by deficits in communication, social skills and reciprocity of feelings.
The person with AS is unaware of what their loved ones think or feel, and even when told, he can only see things from his point of view.
A diagnosis of AS includes social impairments, such as: Many incorrectly believe that those with AS—considered a “high-functioning” Autism Spectrum Disorder—have a mild disability and need next to nothing in the way of support.
The fact is that people with “high functioning” Autism Spectrum Disorders are often quite severely disabled.
Be cool, I told myself, roughly ten-thousand times a day. I showered Kristen with affection and praise, went out of my way to act supportive, and never once voiced a negative thought or feeling. After we were married, and we were living together around the clock, Kristen began to understand exactly what was hard to love about that guy: he wasn’t entirely real.
They learn exactly what they should do and say in a romantic relationship, since none of it comes naturally to them.
They need support and services in the areas of relationships, social care, living skills, respite and community integration, health, housing, education, employment, etc.
“High-functioning” means that they are higher functioning than other people with Autism Spectrum Disorders, not that they are high functioning in relation to the typical population.
It can so thoroughly destroy a relationship that at one time seemed invulnerable.
If it’s well-hidden, and you’re not specifically looking for it, the condition can reveal itself slowly, one misunderstanding and baffling meltdown at a time. How many of us are struggling with something that reveals itself in such cruelly deceptive ways?